Judgement

Recreating Your Relationships

Do you find yourself often in discord with others? Perhaps they make you feel helpless, frustrated, hurt or victimized at times. Often I suggest feeling into what is going on before reacting to someone. Our reality is a sign of what is going on internally within ourselves and our own subconscious mind.

If you find yourself fighting with mostly men that could mean a disturbance with your masculine self that is not in balance with the feminine, if you are someone that relates to being more feminine. Do you feel like you are constantly being attacked? There is something within that needs attention and care and proper healing that maybe you’ve been protecting. These are just a couple of examples, but you don’t need to figure this out. It can be helpful to think about what was out of balance afterwards, but its definitely not necessary.

The best thing to do is to feel what is going on. Drop into the body, get out of the mind and feel what’s there. Take a deep breath and go right to the part that feels like its on fire, screaming for attention or seems to be at war with the rest.

Once you have it, take a breath and just send it love and nurturing. Give it your unconditional love and caring. Then watch it transform. Allow the resistance to melt away and let yourself come back into balance, healed and whole.

Our physical reality is a reflection of how we truly think, what we feel and our belief systems, which equals our true vibration. You may notice all of your relationships changing with ease and grace and your shifting vibration will attract more loving people and support and much more ease in your life.

Blessings to you,

Vanessa

You Get What You Deserve

Is that really true, you get what you deserve? No right? If it were true you’d probably already have what you were asking for. Do you ever feel like other people get stuff they may not or do not deserve? That can be a slippery slope when those thoughts arise – then we could go into judgement of that person and jealousy or other emotions arise. Do you ever think and wonder, Why? Why other people and not you? Why is it so easy for others to get what they want? You’ve done everything you were supposed to, you’re a good person, what about you?

So truth, do you believe that you only get what you deserve? What answer did you get? If you got a yes, read on my friend the info below may change that!

There is a lot of different advice out there that says you must believe that you deserve something. Like believe that you deserve that great relationship, or that money, etc. But, what if that was actually part of the problem? There’s no such thing as really deserving you see. The universe is an ask and you shall receive type of universe. One of the blocks that people run into while asking the universe for what they want is if they believe they and other people get what they deserve. (Check out my newsletter for this month, The April Challenge of Manifesting for another common area where people get stuck in receiving their manifestations – click here.) See, what is actually happening here is that you have to convince yourself you deserve something – because if you already believed you deserved it (and you got a yes to that question above), you would actually have it already.

So here-in lies the problem. When you have to convince yourself or to come a realization that you deserve something, yes you may get some of it, or if  you get all of it hurrah for you!!!, but for the majority of people they find it still won’t come and they get a boatload of frustration instead. Why? Well to have to convince yourself you deserve something, you are in fact convincing yourself of a lie. Even though it might work to some extent, there is a part of you that always knows when something is a lie. There really is no such thing as deserving. You ask and then the universe does its thing (the process of manifestation), and then you receive it or rather actualize it in your life. That’s it. That’s why some people just ask and stuff shows up, they may not have this particular block to receiving. Aside from your mind somewhat rejecting the lie of deserving, there’s another deeper issue that might be going on too.

Did anyone ever tell you that you were bad as a kid, or do you feel like you did bad things? If that’s a yes, then maybe some of you went on to act out some bad things because you thought you were truly bad. Now I ask you, are you truly, truly, truly a bad person? Did you murder someone, hurt someone badly and intentionally, or i don’t know, something that would in general society be considered bad? There is an interesting phenomenon, where people that are generally good, feel like they are bad and punish themselves for something. However, the ones that are truly bad don’t really stop to consider such a notion a good portion of the time. Of course none of this is 100% true in all cases, just something I’ve been noticing. See, the statement, “you get what you deserve” is usually used in the way of punishment, a wishing of ill upon someone that seemingly did something bad. I have noticed that people that believe “You get what you deserve” applies to them, generally also view themselves as bad and ares still punishing themselves in some way. You could be the nicest person anyone has ever met, but if you constantly heard you were bad as a kid you may have that hidden deep within you and subconsciously walk around being so very good (and maybe even getting walked on, or looked over, etc.) because you believed you were bad.

Ok, time to come out of the rabbit hole. So will you stop punishing yourself? If you say yes – make that declaration now to the universe.

Will you let go of any notion that you are a bad person? If yes – make that declaration now to the universe.

And finally – will you totally let go of the saying “You get what you deserve” as being true and expose it for the lie it truly is? Yes? Make that declaration.

Now ask that you undo everything that was created by buying into the “you get what you deserve” and for believing that it in any way was true or applied to you.

Ahhh, yes, take a breath and enjoy that peace and space you just created.

Kisses,
V

 

A special kind of V Day: The Most Fattening Thing on the Menu!

Happy V Day! Sure,  its only Feb 13th, but I have declared today my V Day, primarily to not be out tomorrow and be the lepar (single woman on V Day with no Valentine in sight) amongst the couples, and also because everything around here is already booked solid for tomorrow and I happen to be a last minute kind of gal LOL!

This year I have declared my body to be my special Valentine and treat it kindly and to give it all kinds of love and to stop judging it, so it seemed fitting to take it out on the town for the day! We started out with a nice drive consisting of palm trees all lit up like it was Christmas, a 90 minute Thai massage, a Cheesecake Factory lunch of – yes a plate of cheese! and then a dish of “the most fattening thing on the menu!” as the lady at the table in front of me declared, LOUDLY to several onlookers. I laughed. I guess she didn’t see the plate of fried cheese. I promised myself no judgement, so I ate with no judgement. I noticed I didn’t feel stuffed after, feel guilty or bad after, I just joyfully ate the food my body reacted to when I opened the menu. Ever open the menu and something jumps out at you, then you decide “noooo, can’t be that, I don’t eat that!” or “no way that’s too fattening!”. What if that is what your body would love to have? As I ate amongst several onlookers wanting to order what I was eating, but declared they couldn’t, I wondered, is it really the judgement and the guilt that makes you put on weight?

Energetically speaking, when you do judgement and guilt, it locks up your energy, it creates this criss-cross & looping pattern going around your body and blocks the energy from flowing freely and openly like it should be when someone is healthy. The more you do it, the more of these patterns it creates, then whenever you eat, you find that you go into this pattern and then all eating is full of judgement and guilt. You could be eating a salad if you consider that non-fattening, and still doing it too, just the reverse. Its still a judgement to say this salad isn’t going to make me fat, as it would be to say, oh no this ice cream is fattening. Both are judgements and still create this locking and looping pattern around the body. While eating the salad with judgement you may say “great, no guilt with this”, but even that strengthens the guilt for when you eat something you don’t consider healthy.

This is why I eat with no judgement, who needs all that?! I’ve been really asking my body what it would like and how much it would like to eat. I definitely did not eat that entire lunch, I stopped when I felt like my body was happy, about a third of the plate. (Although I did polish off the fried cheese plate!)  I also eat salads and other fare people consider non-fattening regularly too with no judgement – I make sure I don’t think – oh wow I made a good choice today. Instead, anything my body desires to have is a good choice. What if that is really how it can be? Would you be willing to have that?

I have noticed since that, that without the constant conscious and unconscious barrage of judgement around food, I have felt more peaceful and confident with my body. The struggle with it has lessened tremendously. It feels happy. I don’t need to tell you that a happy body creates so much more ease in life, so this is one easy and indulgently satisfying way that I do that. After having the most fattening thing on the menu, we went shopping. Yes, now tell me really, after indulging in a lunch like this, who would actually want to go shopping? Can you imagine? Normally I would feel bloated, tired, guilty, bad, and all sorts of other things. But I didn’t! Me and the delightfully happy body went shopping and had a blast. Even tried on a couple bathing suits. Now that’s different!

Would you dedicate Valentines Day to your body and show it some love in your own way? Happy Valentines Day!

V Day Kisses!

~V