relationships

True Love

Are you looking for romantic love?

Has the love left the relationship and you feel more like friends?

Do you dream of a deep soulmate connection or a twin flame union with another?

If that’s a yes, I have one more question for you.

Do you believe in true love? Romantic love.

Most people give a resounding yes here. We’ve all been exposed to fairy tales and may even know that special couple that has that type of love we yearn for. So in our heads we know that love exists and maybe we believe that anything is possible. Let’s go deeper with this though. Really feel into your body. Drop down to your stomach or pelvis area, that part of you that has a gut feeling. Let your body answer this. Do you believe true love can happen to you? See how that feels. Did you your body move forward or nod yes, or did you move backwards and shake your head no. Did it feel like your stomach was turning, tight, or you held your breath? Or maybe you felt light and you know with all of your being that yes true love can happen to you.

It’s amazing how many people say yes and then realize its a no. There’s a lot of things we know in our heads to be true, but our bodies tell a different story about what we are creating and why we are not manifesting the things we so desire. If we truly don’t think true love can happen for us then you probably have a lot of frustration with relationships, or maybe you are not getting that romance or passion out of a current relationship.

Look at your beliefs here, then begin to let go of the ones that no longer serves you. Maybe a lot of pain came up in this process for you. Be with those emotions, feel them all until it passes. Clear the way until you get a resounding YES! that true love is possible for you. It is possible for you.

Blessings,

Vanessa xo

Twin Flames: Stage 1

The first stage in meeting your twin flame is the meeting.

This initial connection with your twin is usually a synchronous event or surrounded by some sort of unusual or interesting synchronicity! Both of you have a recognition of each other. Now, this may not be an “I’ve known you forever feeling” as usually happens with soulmates, but there’s definitely something that stands out about them.

The meeting can even feel surreal.

You know that the person you are with is different or maybe completely unlike anyone you have met before. They seem to get you without much effort and there’s an ease to being with them. It’s at this stage that both of your heart chakras begin to open and the awakening starts to happen. You feel comfortable around them or able to open up more and be more of yourself without much effort.

If you haven’t met your twin in person its still considered Stage 1 if your twin has come to you in dreams or if you are intuitive and can sense that type of soul trying to connect with you energetically. Everyone is unique and there are lots of ways to meet your twin, so while is the norm, it doesn’t fit every single case.

Many twins that are at stage 1 may not even be aware of something called “Twin Flame Reconnection” at this point.

Stage 2 — coming soon!

Blessings,

Vanessa

http://www.stairwaytohealing.com

10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Awakening

10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Awakening

The universe has a way of introducing frustration in the places that need the most healing. It’s to get us to stop and look at what is going on and make some changes in our lives. Many people get frustrated though and don’t know what to do, what changes to introduce or what the universe is actually trying to get them to see.

I almost called this post 10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Imbalanced, or Un-awakened. However, the truth is that if these things are happening to you, somewhere in your soul your feminine is awake and just calling out for healing and changes so she can can come back into balance with your masculine energy. She’s there and you are aware of her, even if its unconscious, but these are signs she is asking to be unblocked if any of these things are causing you frustration. This post is for those people that feel truly feminine in their nature. Not all females are truly meant to be feminine and men – masculine, but if you are one of the majority that is feminine in nature then this may resonate for you.

  1. You have your life together. You have a good job, your own place, good friends, life is flowing to you, maybe abundantly, but one thing is missing. The soulmate or that passionate relationship you so truly desire.
  2. You’ve been burnt out from work before and fear getting burnt out again so it stops you from creating and moving forward with new projects and ideas.
  3. Your mind goes and goes and goes. It’s hard to make it stop and get restful deep sleep. You ground yourself but it doesn’t seem to help quiet the mind and get to that place where the thoughts cease. Quiet meditation could even feel like a chore.
  4. You constantly feel like you are “out-manning” men. It almost feels too easy. You may also find that they don’t “step-up” and do the manly things that should be obvious to them.
  5. You feel masculine on the inside. On the outside you could be very feminine looking, curvaceous or you do “girly” things, but inside you’ve never felt feminine.
  6. You tend to be the nurturer in your relationships with lovers, friends, family. When we’re nurturing, we are actually in our masculine energy. You may be the giver and doer in relationships. and you feel like you are doing a lot of the work to keep things flowing.
  7. This one addresses both extremes: Your finances are blocked and find that you are in a co-dependent relationship and need more from him whether it be attention or finaces, or you feel like you are the one in charge and doing everything financially or otherwise.
  8. You have a lot of shame or hatred of your body. It’s hard to look in the mirror and see the beauty standing before you. Your eyes go right to the places you want to change or feel you have imperfections.
  9. You isolate yourself or have a fear of being seen or heard or have some social anxiety.
  10. You have trouble opening your heart and seeing the love and beauty of life all around you. This can also manifest as an issue with receiving. You ask for what you want, you even ask for help, but you don’t always receive it or with the ease you’d like. The word surrender feels like defeat, not like surrendering into the divine flow and opening up to receiving and change.

These are all signs your feminine is waking up and wants to be seen, heard and expressed through you. Just the acknowledgement that this is indeed what is happening will start this process of healing, unblocking and further awakening for the feminine.

If you would like a private session to open up the divine feminine, please contact me at www.stairwaytohealing.com. I will also be doing groups and processes in the late spring to early summer to assist in the awakening of the divine feminine including Womb Blessings, Initiations, Carrier of the Sacred Flame, Healing Sexual Wounds, Heart Wounds and Intuition Wounds, and much more!

Blessings,

Vanessa

Are you loving from your heart or your head?

Are you loving from your heart or your head?

This is a strange phenomena I’ve come across lately. Being love vs. doing loving actions based on what we think the idea of love is. The latter is way too common. You could be a head lover if you’ve found yourself saying “I’ve been very loving. I do all the right things. I’m a good person. Why can’t I get what I want? I feel forgotten, overlooked, unappreciated.” We could even add “I do so much for people and what do I get in return?!”. Or, “I’ve put so much good out in the world, what’s going on?!” If you resonate with any of that, there’s a big chance you are a head lover. Some other signs of this are you not attracting people you like and you seem to attract the ones you don’t like quite easily. Or maybe you do like them, but they don’t stick around, or you find out their feelings aren’t mutual after they seemed to be interested at first.

So if you’re a head lover, read on dear friend. We welcome you. You are not alone.

I know I’m dropping a bomb here when I say this, but here goes…

You are not actually loving.

Well now that that’s out of the way, let me say, you are a loving person. You are just not loving – as in the verb/action form of it. You are being the adjective. You’ve moved all that wondrous, amazing yumminess up to your head, which does nothing for you there. It just makes you seem loving. Its how people might describe you, with the adjective loving. The truth here is that you are a tremendously emotional or sensitive-to-feelings type of person, which is why you thought its much safer to pack up and move into the headspace. Perhaps your heart got hurt and you didn’t have to the tools to heal it, so you go through loving actions (notice the descriptor of love here) but can’t seem to attract your real desires in your life in some area because the actual action of loving (verb usage here), which is not a mental state, but an actual embodied state, isn’t happening.

So go to your heart. What’s there? Do you feel anything? Is it heavy? Is it fine?

Now take your awareness from your beautiful and genius mind, which I’m sure is so with this group since we’ve spent so much time there, and put that awareness inside your heart. Breathe in and out slowly a few times. What’s there? Muck and yuck? Puppies and rainbows? I’m not here to judge. When I went to my heart it was full of grief, layers and layers worth.

The heart has a gigantic magnetic field. This is what actually manifests our life. As within so without. So this is why no matter how many times you tell yourself you are going to get that job, that extra money, or a loving mate to show up, it doesn’t happen. You can think positive thoughts day and night, even have moments of feeling that confidence, but in the end it is the state of your heart that creates your outside world. Only when your heart is open and clearer, then those positive thoughts and moments of strong feelings of confidence flow through and can help to manifest what you desire.

Essentially, it would be in your best interest if everything came from love, and if its not possible in that moment, it could be forgiveness. Anything else is considered a withholding of love. The only person we can actually withhold love from is ourselves. Did you ever withhold love from someone because you were upset? Perhaps your mind felt self-satisfied, but did you notice your feelings were unbalanced in some way, maybe even a little empty?

The truth is this. You are LOVE. Love is just another word for your infinite source energy, or your spirit, or your creator, or the universe. So either you are coming from YOU – your authentic self – love, or you are cutting off from yourself, source, and spirit.

Whoa right!? When you come from love – youyou easily magnetize your deepest desires and things that are perfect for you without even asking.

When you have trouble coming from love, forgiveness is a wise choice. It opens up the heart and lets things flow and clears the karma of lifetimes gone by. Its all too easy to go back to the head and think we are open-hearted because we are being nice and even caring. When we come from the heart there is so much less work because we are being it and there is less doing or saving of anyone else.

One way to check this is to stop and feel. Are there endless thoughts in your mind? Do you get bored easily and need outside stimulation more often than not? You’re probably in the head.

Are you aware of your feelings (even if they are ones you consider negative) and is your mind mostly quiet? Do you do and say things that feel in alignment with you. Then you are most likely in the heart.

There’s a reason you’ve been in the head. We know its difficult, and it hurts to revisit what’s trapped there in the heart, but letting go and forgiveness will give you all that you seek.

Love & Blessings,

V

Well hurry up and love me back already!

So what does love mean to YOU? Love is a word that can mean multiple things to each person and two people can have totally different definitions or expressions of their love for one another. Love is wonderful, love is amazing, but do you also have some blocks around love and really receiving love from another person? Check out this video I created today and maybe it can clear up a few of those love blocks!

Enjoy amazing beings!

Kisses,

V

Where are all the good guys?

Hey beautiful readers! Do you know the #1 question people ask when they call me? I’ll give you a hint…people get embarrassed to ask me this!

OK,  if you said romance then you are right on! People ask me all the time, “Where is my man? When will I meet the one, or my guy, or heck … a normal guy? I think the universe hates me, what gives?!”  Every once in a while I get “Do you think he really loves me? Why isn’t he talking relationship – will I forever just be a friend“.  This last one is a tough one to answer because I know how painful it can be to really care for someone and you are not sure if they feel the same way. I can totally understand where these women are coming from and nobody really wants to be alone, especially when all their friends are getting married or coupled up!

This tends to be a sore subject if you’ve struggled in the romance department, and although I’m great at relaying spiritual advice, I  began wondering what the heck is going on with dating? Over the past few months I’ve noticed that around 90% of the questions I get are ALL about romance, which is quite a bit more than usual. Now, if you’ve ever spoken to me you probably know that once a question gets into my head I can’t stop until I find the answer! I will breathe, eat and sleep a topic until I get the information I need. So what the heck is going on with men and women and why does it feel like we are a different species altogether?

..And so my research began! The universe guided me to a few different people who were considered experts on the topic. I listened to them, read what they had to say, but really, I didn’t get what I was looking for until I found Mathew Hussey. He is a very engaging speaker and says things in a way that makes things click and makes you wonder, why didn’t I think of that before?! You may have seen him on Ready for Love as one of the 3 matchmakers that give dating advice if you caught that on NBC last night! I love his advice and found myself not only wiser in regards to relationships, but more confident in all areas of my life.

Mathew has a new book called Get The Guy, that just came out this week. It focuses on Finding the Guy, Getting the Guy, and Keeping the Guy. It covers all three areas, since inevitably once you’ve met a guy the next question I usually get is how do I get him, and then how do I keep him? One thing I notice when I get these questions is that we all tend to think we are the only ones with this specific issue. One thing I really learned from his work, as I could relate to all the dating scenarios he brought up, is that we are not alone! See, when I get a call and a woman asks, why won’t he commit to more – as in make me his girlfriend? The woman usually thinks its only her and that she is in a weird and unique situation. We may feel like we are alone especially if we are around women who have no trouble with dating, but it became so clear that the questions I was getting asked, he was also getting asked – and by thousands of women. There was really nothing unique about this situation, its actually a common thing that some people know how to get around and others didn’t learn. It just amazes me how much this info can help so many women to not only having more fulfilling dating lives, but also enhance their relationships and bring in tons of confidence in their lives!

Mathew said so many things that made me have aha moments! One crazy thing that blew me away is when he talks about guys being nervous to come over to you. I never knew that! I know I sound crazy. However, I have a gorgeous friend (you know who you are!) and I can’t even say I’ve seen anyone ever scared to approach her. However, Mathew points out what I have been noticing all along and just never understood. The ones that approach are not necessarily the right kind of guy for you, and he teaches how to have to choice in dating and where you are not only subject to the bravest of the brave that come over.

Ok I could go on and on about everything I learned…but hey see for yourself. Check out this ultra hilarious book trailer below!

http://youtu.be/x48drnmWAXU

Here’s the link to the Get The Guy book on Amazon USA: http://amzn.to/16D2qHd

Love & Kisses,
~V