Faith

When you’ve tried everything and your goal still hasn’t manifested!

A leap of faith…

How do you feel when someone tells you to just have faith? Or when you are guided to “take a leap of faith”? Is it scary? I used to think of faith as blind faith. It was as if I was being asked to just believe, even though I couldn’t see it, and to leap without regard for what may happen. So most of the time I would leap, then I’d step into this energy of hopefulness combined with trying to stay calm and open as I wait for it to happen. Well now I know that was completely working against me! This often left me in a state of perpetual waiting for something to happen.

Faith is actually KNOWING. It’s a true and strong belief in yourself, the outcome, or the universe/God/Spirit. It’s that feeling when you know you can definitely do this no matter what! You feel aligned and motivated and have this strong knowing that nothing is going to stop you. It can also be that feeling of just being able to let go completely and know things will work out because something bigger has it all in check. You’ll feel great about just letting go and not allowing any worry to creep up. If a feeling did creep up you wouldn’t ignore it, you would feel into it and see if there was something that needed to happen on your end. This is true faith.

Taking a leap of faith comes up in so many readings for people and it can be confusing as to how to do what you are being asked to do. It’s a strong belief in yourself and that things have a way of working out, especially when you release any fears and negative thoughts about things.

Love to you,

~V

Twin Flames: Stage 1

The first stage in meeting your twin flame is the meeting.

This initial connection with your twin is usually a synchronous event or surrounded by some sort of unusual or interesting synchronicity! Both of you have a recognition of each other. Now, this may not be an “I’ve known you forever feeling” as usually happens with soulmates, but there’s definitely something that stands out about them.

The meeting can even feel surreal.

You know that the person you are with is different or maybe completely unlike anyone you have met before. They seem to get you without much effort and there’s an ease to being with them. It’s at this stage that both of your heart chakras begin to open and the awakening starts to happen. You feel comfortable around them or able to open up more and be more of yourself without much effort.

If you haven’t met your twin in person its still considered Stage 1 if your twin has come to you in dreams or if you are intuitive and can sense that type of soul trying to connect with you energetically. Everyone is unique and there are lots of ways to meet your twin, so while is the norm, it doesn’t fit every single case.

Many twins that are at stage 1 may not even be aware of something called “Twin Flame Reconnection” at this point.

Stage 2 — coming soon!

Blessings,

Vanessa

http://www.stairwaytohealing.com

Energy Update

The energy last night and today have been pretty intense. As I have been more embodied and in-tune with myself some of these shifts in energy float right by me almost as if I’ve been cocooned from the light show raging outside, that is until I decided to poke my head out and see what was going on in  the ethers. A storm was raging last night. What did I see? The old matrix reality is being disassembled, the grid lines are disappearing and the 3D polarized reality being dismantled and transmuted. What does this mean and what does this feel like for us?

Friendships are ending, even long-term ones, you may feel easily annoyed and irritated, negativity emerges right in the midst of you feeling high vibrational and elated, you may feel like some people are up to their old tricks, feeling dreamy and spacey or disembodied to a certain extent, and the one that comes along with usually every event in the ethers – sleepiness, lethargy, and emotional tiredness. Usually when there are huge shifts like this, you may become aware of psychic attacks, energy interference, blocks, or feeling like you’re in a bubble where no one can see you, which can protect you but then can block your receiving. What do we do?

The time we are in now calls for letting go. We tend to want to jump right into “cleansing negative energies” – mode, however, letting go, surrendering and receiving change are super critical right now.  The changes you have been asking for are coming. It’s when we truly let go that the forces can come and sweep  through and change our lives, creating the change we are asking for. Included in letting go is the innate belief that all is working out as you’ve asked and in your best interest. The universe is conspiring in your favor, even though it may not feel like it.

So this isn’t “do nothing”. This is allowing change, detaching from everything and leaning back in the body, and taking a step back mentally allowing everything to stir and move. Float along knowing ALL of this is in your best interest. Everything is aligning for you, for your new future. Trust. Let go.

Peace to you,

~Vanessa

Today’s Thought

A Healing Mantra:

I love all the loved and unloved parts of myself.

I accept all the accepted and unaccepted parts of myself.

I approve of all unapproved and rejected parts of myself.

Speak this mantra throughout your day and watch your energy shift. The more you feel it as you say it, the better.

This is a simple step to begin self-healing, deepen it, and refocus your energy and thoughts on yourself. These statements are especially helpful if you find that you are outwardly focused on others, or find that you look for love, approval and acceptance outside of yourself. The more you can find it within, the easier your life will flow.

Love to you always,

Vanessa

The #1 Reason Manifestation Techniques Don’t Work

My guides keep reminding me of this precious detail every so often. We tend to get lost in our race to make things happen, to get what we want, to push toward our goals, and to clear the blockages in the way, energetic or otherwise. We focus on the minute details, we clear and clear and clear the energy and give it our all. We stay positive, focused, happy and do everything we learned to do about manifesting our dreams, even letting go of them so the universe can take care of it and make things happen. Okay, not all of us, but if you’re nodding your head to this you know the pain of striving towards what you want every single day, sometimes working at it all day every day and seeing only minor shifts – if that. Sometimes we break down in frustration or seek more help, or find more blocks to clear, but it feels like an endless cycle with certain things. So what’s going on?

Ask and You Shall Receive. That really is all it is. Did you ever ask for something, let it go and then see it show it up? Sometimes you hardly asked for it at all, it was just a passing thought in your mind – and there it was knocking at your door or coming to you asking you if you were interested in what they have to offer. So what is the difference here? Why does certain things show up so easily and other things you feel may never change?

Many books will tell you the problem is about the receiving. You have asked for it, but you are not open to receive it. You’re not a good receiver. You have to let go and just receive. But, I’ll tell you something different, a secret of sorts.

Asking is receiving.

When you ask for something and you are clear as to what you want, but you are not hung up on the need of it thinking it will change your life, or you’ll finally be set free, it is free to come to you. If there is nothing really attached to the asking, but just the desire, it will show up. If there is a lot riding on the outcome of that thing showing up, or you just want it oh so badly, it won’t show up so easily.

Here’s why. You don’t really want it. It’s pretty simple, if you really wanted it, you would have it already. I don’t mean “want” as in lack, like wanting something so badly that it hurts, or makes you sad/miserable/or depressed in any way. I mean desiring it, from a calm relaxed place. A place where you know you can have it. Think of it like this, you have three meals in the refrigerator and someone asks you which one you want. You are coming from a place of having, or a calm place of knowing, versus, the frustrated feeling of lacking and being without that comes up when you think of thing you want so much that you have been working so hard to get all these years.

I have a friend that keeps asking me when she’ll find a job, or what she has to do to get that perfect job. She gets other jobs, minimum wage ones that she doesn’t like to do. She wants a certain type of job. When I tested her “Truth, do you really want a job?” It was a no. You can try this at home. What is that you have been striving for all these years? Truth, do you really desire it? If you do muscle testing you can test to see what you get here. If not, you can feel deep down into your body, not in your head as your head will tell you “yes you do want it of course duh!”. What does your body say? This may not always be the answer, but so many times it goes back to something as simple as this. Do you really want this thing or not? Maybe you are waiting for more perfect conditions to show up. Like losing weight first, then having that relationship. Or maybe feeling like you need to fix something about yourself first before you get out there and get that job. When we looked at this further, my friend felt like she wasn’t good enough for a better job, so deep down she didn’t want the job yet because she felt it was above her.

So what do you do about this? Well, you can look at where you are giving mixed signals to the universe. I advised my friend to focus on both sides of the coin for faster results, what is blocking you from wanting it and is what you want best suited for you right now? One thing was working on her self-esteem and confidence and trust in herself to build up her value, and the other side of this was to sit with the idea of what she thought she wanted. Why did she want this type of job? What did she think it would give her? Did she indeed want this or just the status of the job so she could feel a certain way? Would she be better suited to something else, or was she ready to put her fears aside step into something bigger? She is currently sorting through all of this, but I know when she stops giving mixed signals to the universe and puts out one message clearly – I know she will get what she truly wants.

Kisses,

~V

Having Faith. When you know, you just know.

People often ask me about faith. It usually doesn’t come as a direct question, since most people have a sense of faith or already have touched upon it, or even ridden its waves of divinity. It tends to come as “Why should i have faith? I’ve trusted in the universe before and nothing happened.” or “Well, I’ll have faith, we’ll see..” and they watch and wait for the universe to either fulfill their dream or pull the rug out from under as usual. However, that’s not actually faith in the divine. That’s faith in mistrust of the universe, or faith in darkness, negativity, or the universe conspiring against you. Faith is not a we’ll-see attitude, nor does it have room for the slightest doubt, not even a drop. The easiest way for me to talk about faith is through a story.

In 2005 I was growing very tired of my job. I mean I loved it, I felt I was good at it, there were nice people, there was room to grow, there was support, there was money and great vacations. I mean, lots of good stuff here. However, I knew once I started growing tired that it would be time to move on. I always knew I would do something else, and that work was temporary, but never knew what or when a new beginning would strike.

I had no clue what else I could be good at besides what I went to college to do. I also knew I was blessed to have such a great job in software engineering. However, there was always this knowing that it wasn’t for me. That something totally different and unique would be my calling. After 7 years in the field I started to get this inkling it was time to go. I grew tired of going in to work, but mostly it felt like I lost my passion for it. As I paid attention to this feeling, it grew louder and louder. I felt like an entire life change was ahead, but I still didn’t know what. Finally I felt like I needed to make a first move. So I gave my notice that I was leaving.

Well, it was an interesting reaction from people when I explained I didn’t know what I was leaving a great job for. Yet, I was unmoved. It didn’t bother me at all whatever they might have thought or said among themselves. I figured they thought I was crazy, and I am probably am. Yet I stood firm. As I drove home a little bit of panic set in, as I drove to the house I had a mortgage on. Oh yes, bills. What would happen to me? Yet, I still couldn’t even go into a full-fledged panic or freak out. I was unusually calm for once in my life. When I arrived home that night I said, “God, please show me what career I am to do, what job I am to do, or what I am to do next. PLEASE!”. I left it at that.

I went to work the next day and the analytical brain was starting to kick in, like – “Vanessa, you better start to think about what it is you want to do already. Stop wasting time!” I made it through the day and I knew no matter what thoughts arose I was doing the right thing. It felt like a cross between intuition and trust that I would make it. I didn’t know at the time I was riding on full-fledged faith here. I just knew that I needed to trust this. I’m not the most decisive person (which frustrates the heck out of my friends lol sorry!), so when I know something, I know that I know that I know!

I arrived home and when I opened the mailbox there was one piece of mail. It was a postcard. It said “Become a healer! Learn Qi Gong and heal yourself and others!”. And there you have it. I saw that and without a doubt I just knew that was the next thing. I knew I was born to be a healer, I just never knew it could be a job. It was scary to think about since back then it was the most difficult field to do well in, but there was no doubt in mind this is what God wanted me to do. So this is where I started. I learned everything I could in workshops, classes, books, home courses and schools – that’s how much passion I had. That was also another sign that this was for me. God speaks to us in feelings, and in that moment my faith was to just pay attention and listen and follow the trail home.

I tell that story when people ask me about faith because its not about having faith, its about having knowing. Just knowing you are taken care of. Knowing the universe is conspiring to please you. Knowing everything is happening for your good. If we have any doubts at all, that’s not true knowing. There is no room for doubt in faith. There is no space for prove-it-to-me, or disbelief. This also wasn’t blind faith, although it may appear that way on the surface. I always knew there was more. I could feel it. When you know you just know. I tell clients that if there is something you need to have faith about and have trouble getting there, ask yourself, what do you know about this. Forget the word faith, and tune into what you know beyond a shadow of a doubt. Tune into your feelings. Go from there.

Kisses,
~V

The Red Tent Revival!

I have a secret to share…

It’s a secret that will turn you on, light you up, and rock your world in all kinds of ways…

It’s a secret that harkens back to more than 5,000 years ago when the feminine was worshiped, respected and celebrated…

It’s a secret that will have you reclaiming your feminine power, reviving your wisdom, and returning to your truth as a woman…

Ready for it?!

You’ll find it here in this video.

I attended this last year and it was absolutely amazing. I learned tons of new stuff that I didn’t even know was out there and it helped me to ground into my femininity more. This is why I’ve decided to take part in supporting this event this year. I hope you check it out. 🙂

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Kristin Sweeting Morelli, is the red hot woman who is pioneering this movement. She seriously likes to shake things up and break down barriers for women around the world…

And so, she has put together an EPIC (and totally free) 5-day online festival where we’ll revive EVERYTHING it means to be a woman.

It’s called the Red Tent Revival… and it’s happening soon.

I’ve gotten a sneak peek and it’s a WOW! I’ve never seen or heard of anything like it. It’s already changing my life and the lives of tens of thousands of other women in 167 countries and counting…

Inside the Red Tent, you’ll get to learn from an extraordinary group of contributors too… television stars, best-selling authors, world-famous dancers, MDs, and PhDs who will be sharing their wisdom and having us move our bodies. Mmm… so good!

Want to come?! (You can take part from the comfort of your living room!)

Join the Red Tent Revival here.

Kisses,
V

Money and The $anta Claus Syndrome

Millions. Want to have millions of dollars? No you don’t, because if you truly wanted it you’d have it already. Ouch! Ok, just repeating back to you what I’ve been hearing all along in the self-help and the metaphysical world of manifestation and transformation. How does it feel to know you really don’t want something even though you think you do? I’ve noticed most people fall into an abyss of hopelessness at times, but mostly frustration when this is said and not followed up by a deeper explanation.

Perhaps this has been said to you, or you’ve read and heard this as well in its other forms, as in “You’re just not willing to receive yet.”, or “Choose it, its up to you.”, or  “When the time is right it’ll show up.” Now, let me just add that – this is true, to an extent. Let’s take this a bit further so you can get to the other side with this most frustrating statement.

Here are some steps to get you through the process! Please note this is not overnight and each of these steps take time if you truly would like to generate something in your life. With some things you may be able to work your magic and go through each step in 1-3 days.

1. Really acknowledge what it is you truly desire, allow yourself to want it, desperately want it.

2. Give yourself permission to have it. Picture yourself having it and owning it. Imagine what that would be like.

3. Act like its yours already. This is more of a feeling/emotion rather than an actual physical act. So what would it feel like to be rich? Step into that feeling. In no way do I mean go out and spend money like you are rich, because you are not rich yet! Ooops, sorry for another harsh reminder! Anywhoo…you can apply this to other things of course, what would it feel like to be in a relationship? Or have your dream job?

4. If step #3 brought up any type of bad feelings for you, this is a biggie as why what you want is not showing up. Take note of what brought up the negative feelings and images and let that go, clear that energy.

5. All the images and visions you created in step #2, let all that stuff go and clear that energy. That step was vital to helping you cross the threshold into the true feelings of actually having what you desire, but if you hold on to it, it will be a limitation and may block what you want to show up – or just limit how and under what circumstances it shows up for you.

6. Really acknowledge that you’ve come this far! Most people don’t even get to or past step 1. I’ve found that the deepest desires in many clients are hidden deep down and never expressed, like you did in step #1. Its sort of a secret desire that they know about but don’t fully acknowledge. When the feelings come up they push it down, push it away, or tell themselves it can never be, and unfortunately it remains a fantasy and never an actual goal.

7. Act! What do you need to do here? Take a step ahead towards your goal, now that its real and a lot of the blockages around you having it has been cleared. Is it time to meet people in a different way than before if you’d like a relationship? Do you need a lottery ticket? Feel compelled to look for a higher paying job? Whatever your goal take a step. This gets the energy moving faster.

8. Acknowledge that if you did step #7, again you’ve gone a lot further than most people. Much of the time people tend to sit and wait for something to show up. If we take it a step further we work to clear the energy – but even then we have a habit of waiting until all the energy is clear and believe that whatever we are asking for should just show up now. If it does, awesome!

9. At this point there is some progress. You may feel very different. You may be meeting more people if you are looking for a relationship. If you are asking for money perhaps a job opportunity shows up, or you may just feel very motivated and have more energy. Let’s take it further, again look at what is holding you back from having what you desire. Ask what are all the reasons why what you are asking for is not showing up. Clear that. Take another action. Keep this on repeat until you get what you are looking for. Don’t give up, you are working your way there!

So next time someone tells you that you must not really want something to change, clear, heal or show up, check where you are on this chart. Much of the time people find that they are at #1 or #2 and don’t know what to do next or to do to “really want” that thing.

As promised in a previous blog post I had said that I would explain what I call the Santa Claus Syndrome in more detail. The Santa Claus Syndrome is when we finally do step #1 and then wait and wait and wait and wonder why what we desire has not shown up. This is usually due to a belief that this is all it takes. Now, this isn’t totally off – some things for some people can just show up by wanting it enough. This possibly has happened to everybody at some point with at least one thing.

Also, the Santa Claus Syndrome can rear its head when we do more work at times. For example, we desire something and keep clearing energy blockages and clearing  and clearing and clearing, fully expecting that when we clear enough it will show up. Again, it may – and how wonderful that would be. But if it doesn’t, let this be your backup plan!

Kisses,

V

Half-Empty/Half-Full, or Always Overflowing?

Did you know that when you choose something it actually becomes much easier to look at the positive side of things?

One of my friends is thinking of moving here, and I thought “Wow! that’s phenomenal – you get to enjoy a piece of paradise down here in south Fl! Good for you!” However – that was apparently my point of view. My friend was met with naysayers that live in the area deterring even the thought of a move. “I’m over it. There’s nothing to do here. It’s too hot here. It’s hard to meet people around here. There are no jobs.” These were just some of the tidbits of unsolicited advice. However, if you are around me for even 5 mins you’d hear “It’s so amazing here. Look at the beautiful sunset. That tree is gorgeous! It’s beautiful out! I love it here!” I said many of those things today, even in mid-the-world-is-gonna-end-thunderstorm/hurricane weather that even the alligators and snakes come out of hiding to run for cover.

As I sat and thought about this, I thought about living in CT. Growing up I felt so bored living there, and ughhh the winter! I felt like it wasn’t my choice to be there and I didn’t have the means to move. I was frustrated being stuck in the house on snowy days and I didn’t like being out in the cold at all. When I got into my mid 20’s though, I started to appreciate where I lived. I realized we were so to close to NYC, we could take all kinds of trips to different states pretty easily, we had mountains as well as beaches, there were a lot of corporate jobs and the pay was great, and its one of the richest states. So I chose to stay a little bit longer and enjoy my time there.

Do you like where you live? What would happen if you chose to live there, even if you told yourself it was just for a little while? Well what happened to me before I left CT was that almost every single weekend was a trip to somewhere I had never been. On nice days I soaked up the sun. On an autumn day I rolled in leaves. In the spring I danced in the rain and ran through the grass. In the winter – well I would like to say I shoveled but actually I stayed inside and killed some hot chocolate, pizza and snoozed to movie marathons. How would you start to look at things if you were actively choosing to live where you live? Would the days get brighter? Would you meet more interesting people?

I love it down here in south FL, although I will admit that its never easy to move somewhere completely new by yourself. My move would’ve been easier had there been a partner or friend moving with me. However, the point that I chose to be here is what gets me up in the morning, looking for new things to do, people to meet, and places to explore and expand my love for the area. I would dare to even say that I love it because I chose it. Everything is brighter, funnier, more beautiful and spectacular.  What’s really funny is that I thought people up north stayed in the house for 6 mos of the year because its cold and snowy or some other location/weather related excuse. To my amazement what I’ve found here is that a lot of people stay indoors too and it has nothing to do with the location or weather as I was originally convinced! That blows my mind! People are people no matter where you live. They stay inside in paradise and can complain about where they are living, or they jump into a pile of snow and laugh and giggle and enjoy where they are at.

What’s great about where you live? I believe that we are where we are for a reason and it suits us at the time. Are you allowing your location to suit you and be to your greatest benefit? Try saying “I’m choosing to live here until I choose to live somewhere else.” See what shows up!

Bountiful Kisses,

V