Boredom

Are you loving from your heart or your head?

Are you loving from your heart or your head?

This is a strange phenomena I’ve come across lately. Being love vs. doing loving actions based on what we think the idea of love is. The latter is way too common. You could be a head lover if you’ve found yourself saying “I’ve been very loving. I do all the right things. I’m a good person. Why can’t I get what I want? I feel forgotten, overlooked, unappreciated.” We could even add “I do so much for people and what do I get in return?!”. Or, “I’ve put so much good out in the world, what’s going on?!” If you resonate with any of that, there’s a big chance you are a head lover. Some other signs of this are you not attracting people you like and you seem to attract the ones you don’t like quite easily. Or maybe you do like them, but they don’t stick around, or you find out their feelings aren’t mutual after they seemed to be interested at first.

So if you’re a head lover, read on dear friend. We welcome you. You are not alone.

I know I’m dropping a bomb here when I say this, but here goes…

You are not actually loving.

Well now that that’s out of the way, let me say, you are a loving person. You are just not loving – as in the verb/action form of it. You are being the adjective. You’ve moved all that wondrous, amazing yumminess up to your head, which does nothing for you there. It just makes you seem loving. Its how people might describe you, with the adjective loving. The truth here is that you are a tremendously emotional or sensitive-to-feelings type of person, which is why you thought its much safer to pack up and move into the headspace. Perhaps your heart got hurt and you didn’t have to the tools to heal it, so you go through loving actions (notice the descriptor of love here) but can’t seem to attract your real desires in your life in some area because the actual action of loving (verb usage here), which is not a mental state, but an actual embodied state, isn’t happening.

So go to your heart. What’s there? Do you feel anything? Is it heavy? Is it fine?

Now take your awareness from your beautiful and genius mind, which I’m sure is so with this group since we’ve spent so much time there, and put that awareness inside your heart. Breathe in and out slowly a few times. What’s there? Muck and yuck? Puppies and rainbows? I’m not here to judge. When I went to my heart it was full of grief, layers and layers worth.

The heart has a gigantic magnetic field. This is what actually manifests our life. As within so without. So this is why no matter how many times you tell yourself you are going to get that job, that extra money, or a loving mate to show up, it doesn’t happen. You can think positive thoughts day and night, even have moments of feeling that confidence, but in the end it is the state of your heart that creates your outside world. Only when your heart is open and clearer, then those positive thoughts and moments of strong feelings of confidence flow through and can help to manifest what you desire.

Essentially, it would be in your best interest if everything came from love, and if its not possible in that moment, it could be forgiveness. Anything else is considered a withholding of love. The only person we can actually withhold love from is ourselves. Did you ever withhold love from someone because you were upset? Perhaps your mind felt self-satisfied, but did you notice your feelings were unbalanced in some way, maybe even a little empty?

The truth is this. You are LOVE. Love is just another word for your infinite source energy, or your spirit, or your creator, or the universe. So either you are coming from YOU – your authentic self – love, or you are cutting off from yourself, source, and spirit.

Whoa right!? When you come from love – youyou easily magnetize your deepest desires and things that are perfect for you without even asking.

When you have trouble coming from love, forgiveness is a wise choice. It opens up the heart and lets things flow and clears the karma of lifetimes gone by. Its all too easy to go back to the head and think we are open-hearted because we are being nice and even caring. When we come from the heart there is so much less work because we are being it and there is less doing or saving of anyone else.

One way to check this is to stop and feel. Are there endless thoughts in your mind? Do you get bored easily and need outside stimulation more often than not? You’re probably in the head.

Are you aware of your feelings (even if they are ones you consider negative) and is your mind mostly quiet? Do you do and say things that feel in alignment with you. Then you are most likely in the heart.

There’s a reason you’ve been in the head. We know its difficult, and it hurts to revisit what’s trapped there in the heart, but letting go and forgiveness will give you all that you seek.

Love & Blessings,

V

Half-Empty/Half-Full, or Always Overflowing?

Did you know that when you choose something it actually becomes much easier to look at the positive side of things?

One of my friends is thinking of moving here, and I thought “Wow! that’s phenomenal – you get to enjoy a piece of paradise down here in south Fl! Good for you!” However – that was apparently my point of view. My friend was met with naysayers that live in the area deterring even the thought of a move. “I’m over it. There’s nothing to do here. It’s too hot here. It’s hard to meet people around here. There are no jobs.” These were just some of the tidbits of unsolicited advice. However, if you are around me for even 5 mins you’d hear “It’s so amazing here. Look at the beautiful sunset. That tree is gorgeous! It’s beautiful out! I love it here!” I said many of those things today, even in mid-the-world-is-gonna-end-thunderstorm/hurricane weather that even the alligators and snakes come out of hiding to run for cover.

As I sat and thought about this, I thought about living in CT. Growing up I felt so bored living there, and ughhh the winter! I felt like it wasn’t my choice to be there and I didn’t have the means to move. I was frustrated being stuck in the house on snowy days and I didn’t like being out in the cold at all. When I got into my mid 20’s though, I started to appreciate where I lived. I realized we were so to close to NYC, we could take all kinds of trips to different states pretty easily, we had mountains as well as beaches, there were a lot of corporate jobs and the pay was great, and its one of the richest states. So I chose to stay a little bit longer and enjoy my time there.

Do you like where you live? What would happen if you chose to live there, even if you told yourself it was just for a little while? Well what happened to me before I left CT was that almost every single weekend was a trip to somewhere I had never been. On nice days I soaked up the sun. On an autumn day I rolled in leaves. In the spring I danced in the rain and ran through the grass. In the winter – well I would like to say I shoveled but actually I stayed inside and killed some hot chocolate, pizza and snoozed to movie marathons. How would you start to look at things if you were actively choosing to live where you live? Would the days get brighter? Would you meet more interesting people?

I love it down here in south FL, although I will admit that its never easy to move somewhere completely new by yourself. My move would’ve been easier had there been a partner or friend moving with me. However, the point that I chose to be here is what gets me up in the morning, looking for new things to do, people to meet, and places to explore and expand my love for the area. I would dare to even say that I love it because I chose it. Everything is brighter, funnier, more beautiful and spectacular.  What’s really funny is that I thought people up north stayed in the house for 6 mos of the year because its cold and snowy or some other location/weather related excuse. To my amazement what I’ve found here is that a lot of people stay indoors too and it has nothing to do with the location or weather as I was originally convinced! That blows my mind! People are people no matter where you live. They stay inside in paradise and can complain about where they are living, or they jump into a pile of snow and laugh and giggle and enjoy where they are at.

What’s great about where you live? I believe that we are where we are for a reason and it suits us at the time. Are you allowing your location to suit you and be to your greatest benefit? Try saying “I’m choosing to live here until I choose to live somewhere else.” See what shows up!

Bountiful Kisses,

V

Eliminating Boredom: From Survival Energy to Thrival Energy

Hi Everyone! This topic of boredom seems to be coming up a lot lately, so I thought I’d address it in a video while relaxing outside.

Thanks, enjoy!

Kisses,

V