fate

Delaying Destiny

People always ask me, are our lives predetermined? Is everything up to fate, or do we have total free will? Are some things our destiny, how does it all work? Well the answer to this isn’t as simple as it sounds like it might be – as its yes and no to all of the above!

We are born with an infinite number of life paths, although many of them might have the same people involved on almost every path as it could be our destiny to connect with certain people. On each path your interaction with them could be a little bit different. As you go through your life and make a choice the path that is in sync with your choice aligns with you and you walk into that future. As you make the next choice and the next choice and so on, the correct path lines up with you. Most people that live in a comfort zone or that tend to make the same type of choices, tend to stay on one path for most of their lives, and their choices align with what is already on that path. When I look at the paths of those people it tends to be solid and I can see the timing of when things will show up in their lives pretty easily.

However, those that make drastic spur of the moment life altering decisions, well they will tend to switch paths constantly – and in a reading I rarely see a set future, nothing feels solid. Instead I will look at all their possible futures and help them choose which one would give them the most out of their life and lead them to where they want to go.

Then there are a lot of people who have engaged in self-help and metaphysics, or people who just decide they have had enough and are determined to change – they usually lie somewhere in between with all of this. As you heal certain core wounds you tend to drastically alter your future – meaning you pull in and create a new life path than the one you were previously on. However, here’s where people get stuck. We’ve been told to sit back and wait and do nothing, let the universe bring you your gifts – but that’s not entirely true. Its important for us to let go and not dwell on things and to get out of our heads, but sitting back and waiting never did anybody any good! So many people have asked me when their dream guy is going to show up at their door, or find them. Unless he can see through walls and has mental gps, you have to be somewhere he can find you.

For example, you may be destined to meet a certain person, but if you sit back, wait, have faith – you will start to question, “What am I doing wrong? What’s going on? I’ve done all this healing!”. This is how we delay destiny. We get onto our new path that is more clear, and allows for a deep soulmate connection for example, but then we don’t move forward on it. We feel like the heavy lifting is done, now comes the prize. Not true, keep walking forward, keep going. When you have healed and cleared a lot of things in your life, the path that is now before you is much clearer for you to go forth, but also requires more action than someone for example, that has done little to no healing and/or stays in a comfort zone of no-change. It might feel like a catch 22. You might be saying, then why do the work? Well, because the type of person you will meet and the type of experiences you will have will be much for fulfilling and mean so much more.

If you find yourself in this last category, how do you stop delaying destiny? I advise my clients to never sit back and just have faith here, this is where you want to clear your mind, get out of your head, get into your body and do some movement. Ask yourself what would be appropriate. Say you would like to meet someone. Clear your mind, get into your body, and affirm you will meet someone to be in relationship with. Then go out and take action, be out as much as possible, be available in more than one way. As you live more in your body than your head different thoughts and ideas will come to you. It could be simple as taking a walk in the park, then an idea comes to go to a museum. Then at the museum you realize you like antiques. You now have a new hobby, something to take you out more, and who knows, it keeps going. This is what your life path looks like. When you clear your head you will be able to sense the next thing on your path, which is taking that walk, then the museum and so on. This is how you work and walk the new upgraded path you’re now aligned to after all that healing work!

Here’s to no more waiting or getting stuck!

Kisses,
V