Embodiment

To All Aspiring Beams of Light

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Be the light. Allow your light to shine. Let your radiance shine so hard that it melts bystanders into puddles of love.

There’s nothing to purify. There’s nothing to clear. Your vessel is ready. It has always been ready.

The only thing to ascend is your thought that you’re not ready, the belief that you haven’t ascended yet, or are not pure enough.

Allow yourself to tune into this light, this inner radiance and allow it to flow.

Let go. Let it flow.

Blessings,

Vanessa

Recreating Your Relationships

Do you find yourself often in discord with others? Perhaps they make you feel helpless, frustrated, hurt or victimized at times. Often I suggest feeling into what is going on before reacting to someone. Our reality is a sign of what is going on internally within ourselves and our own subconscious mind.

If you find yourself fighting with mostly men that could mean a disturbance with your masculine self that is not in balance with the feminine, if you are someone that relates to being more feminine. Do you feel like you are constantly being attacked? There is something within that needs attention and care and proper healing that maybe you’ve been protecting. These are just a couple of examples, but you don’t need to figure this out. It can be helpful to think about what was out of balance afterwards, but its definitely not necessary.

The best thing to do is to feel what is going on. Drop into the body, get out of the mind and feel what’s there. Take a deep breath and go right to the part that feels like its on fire, screaming for attention or seems to be at war with the rest.

Once you have it, take a breath and just send it love and nurturing. Give it your unconditional love and caring. Then watch it transform. Allow the resistance to melt away and let yourself come back into balance, healed and whole.

Our physical reality is a reflection of how we truly think, what we feel and our belief systems, which equals our true vibration. You may notice all of your relationships changing with ease and grace and your shifting vibration will attract more loving people and support and much more ease in your life.

Blessings to you,

Vanessa

A leap of faith…

How do you feel when someone tells you to just have faith? Or when you are guided to “take a leap of faith”? Is it scary? I used to think of faith as blind faith. It was as if I was being asked to just believe, even though I couldn’t see it, and to leap without regard for what may happen. So most of the time I would leap, then I’d step into this energy of hopefulness combined with trying to stay calm and open as I wait for it to happen. Well now I know that was completely working against me! This often left me in a state of perpetual waiting for something to happen.

Faith is actually KNOWING. It’s a true and strong belief in yourself, the outcome, or the universe/God/Spirit. It’s that feeling when you know you can definitely do this no matter what! You feel aligned and motivated and have this strong knowing that nothing is going to stop you. It can also be that feeling of just being able to let go completely and know things will work out because something bigger has it all in check. You’ll feel great about just letting go and not allowing any worry to creep up. If a feeling did creep up you wouldn’t ignore it, you would feel into it and see if there was something that needed to happen on your end. This is true faith.

Taking a leap of faith comes up in so many readings for people and it can be confusing as to how to do what you are being asked to do. It’s a strong belief in yourself and that things have a way of working out, especially when you release any fears and negative thoughts about things.

Love to you,

~V

10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Awakening

10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Awakening

The universe has a way of introducing frustration in the places that need the most healing. It’s to get us to stop and look at what is going on and make some changes in our lives. Many people get frustrated though and don’t know what to do, what changes to introduce or what the universe is actually trying to get them to see.

I almost called this post 10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Imbalanced, or Un-awakened. However, the truth is that if these things are happening to you, somewhere in your soul your feminine is awake and just calling out for healing and changes so she can can come back into balance with your masculine energy. She’s there and you are aware of her, even if its unconscious, but these are signs she is asking to be unblocked if any of these things are causing you frustration. This post is for those people that feel truly feminine in their nature. Not all females are truly meant to be feminine and men – masculine, but if you are one of the majority that is feminine in nature then this may resonate for you.

  1. You have your life together. You have a good job, your own place, good friends, life is flowing to you, maybe abundantly, but one thing is missing. The soulmate or that passionate relationship you so truly desire.
  2. You’ve been burnt out from work before and fear getting burnt out again so it stops you from creating and moving forward with new projects and ideas.
  3. Your mind goes and goes and goes. It’s hard to make it stop and get restful deep sleep. You ground yourself but it doesn’t seem to help quiet the mind and get to that place where the thoughts cease. Quiet meditation could even feel like a chore.
  4. You constantly feel like you are “out-manning” men. It almost feels too easy. You may also find that they don’t “step-up” and do the manly things that should be obvious to them.
  5. You feel masculine on the inside. On the outside you could be very feminine looking, curvaceous or you do “girly” things, but inside you’ve never felt feminine.
  6. You tend to be the nurturer in your relationships with lovers, friends, family. When we’re nurturing, we are actually in our masculine energy. You may be the giver and doer in relationships. and you feel like you are doing a lot of the work to keep things flowing.
  7. This one addresses both extremes: Your finances are blocked and find that you are in a co-dependent relationship and need more from him whether it be attention or finaces, or you feel like you are the one in charge and doing everything financially or otherwise.
  8. You have a lot of shame or hatred of your body. It’s hard to look in the mirror and see the beauty standing before you. Your eyes go right to the places you want to change or feel you have imperfections.
  9. You isolate yourself or have a fear of being seen or heard or have some social anxiety.
  10. You have trouble opening your heart and seeing the love and beauty of life all around you. This can also manifest as an issue with receiving. You ask for what you want, you even ask for help, but you don’t always receive it or with the ease you’d like. The word surrender feels like defeat, not like surrendering into the divine flow and opening up to receiving and change.

These are all signs your feminine is waking up and wants to be seen, heard and expressed through you. Just the acknowledgement that this is indeed what is happening will start this process of healing, unblocking and further awakening for the feminine.

If you would like a private session to open up the divine feminine, please contact me at www.stairwaytohealing.com. I will also be doing groups and processes in the late spring to early summer to assist in the awakening of the divine feminine including Womb Blessings, Initiations, Carrier of the Sacred Flame, Healing Sexual Wounds, Heart Wounds and Intuition Wounds, and much more!

Blessings,

Vanessa

Messages from the Other Dimension

In case you wanted to know what being me for 5 minutes is like.

As I lay there relaxed I could feel my eyes wanting to see further. I knew that if I just let myself go there, and see things inside out, then I would see again. I relaxed and dimmed my eyes a little, testing it out. If I would let myself see things as inverted I would see what I had been avoiding for all this time. It was in that moment that I felt and saw in my mind this fine line of real and unreal. I let myself see what was real, but now I could see the line and all that was beneath it. So I let go and held on to the calm place of certainty that this is a gift. I stared straight ahead and immediately saw 3 spirits of women where my fan was. They were dressed in gray tattered clothes and their cheeks plumped with delight as I looked at them. “Oh, she sees us!”, one exclaimed to the others. Another one looked directly at me and said “We’ve been with you since the 18th century.” Before I could ask them anything more, I was startled by the noise in the house and brought back abruptly to where I began. It became too difficult to communicate with them from this place, so I relaxed a bit. As I scanned the house I suddenly realized I was surrounded by spirits watching me as they encircled the outer edges of the room, yet the rest of the house was empty. “Have they always been here?”, I wondered. I knew I must be doing something of importance to generate this much attention. I turn back to my book about a writer that becomes a Vodou priest in order to create his book, but he must undergo days of darkness and being blindfolded as the spirits communicate with or possibly possess him. “We know its hard for you, you just want a normal life, but it has never been.” One of the women spoke gently. I looked at her puzzled. “We remember you. You don’t remember us.” They moved closer and one stroked my hair and their presence felt very nurturing in that moment. I appreciated their attentiveness and compassion. Just as I started to find comfort in their presence the metaphorical light bulb went off. Oh. “You guys want to go to the light? That’s why you’ve been here all this time?” Time to send them off I guess. “Yes, but when you have a moment.” I thought of how gracious they were even though they had waited since the 18th century and I laughed to myself. I blessed them and sent them off. I turned back to my book finishing the first chapter quickly. I felt something else tugging at me, wanting my attention. I put down the book and someone from the circle speaks. “You finished the entire chapter on darkness and you didn’t get scared.”, one being spoke.  “What do you mean, why would I be scared? I’m fine”, I said abruptly. Suddenly there was a momentary flash of everything I would be afraid of if I was blindfolded in the dark in a cave for days. I laughed out loud from the image and the fact that he so eagerly and quickly shot back to me refuting what I said. I pondered the image for a moment. Strange animals touching me, bugs crawling on me, something eating me perhaps. It was in that moment I wondered if we are born fearing things or if we have learned to fear them. I quickly cleared all the energy that those things brought up until I could see the image and imagine myself being naturally calm. “Thank you.” I said. “You better write this down now.” he said.

Kisses,

-V-

www.stairwaytohealing.com

Blissed Out of Polarity

I love listening to the pouring rain and watching it pummel the exotic plants and trees. I am enchanted as the sky lights up and turns from bright orange to black as the night approaches. I watch as the stars struggle to radiate and shine behind these thick clouds. This is bliss to me. I feel like I can breathe again, relax again, be me again. It’s when I am the most at peace and my energy feels the clearest its been. Silence ensues within my body, and even the neighborhood goes quiet. The irony of the intense thunder outside creates the most intense stillness inside.

We are always coming into balance one way or another. This is the natural cycle of life. Did you ever notice how when there is chaos outside you get very still within yourself? Whether you are thinking of a plan of action, go into survival mode or even freeze up in fear, stillness becomes you. When you have stillness or joy within ever notice how someone comes along to knock you of alignment with the divine, or seems to fight the mood you are in? We seem to always be polarized and attracting the opposite to create that balance of Oneness that we truly live in. The more we fight it, the more it fights back. What we resist, persists. Its the same as when we go on a 5 day yoga retreat, or attend a 3 day energy workshop. We leave feeling great, open and expanded, then within days we can feel tight and contracted, and even old emotions can rise up to the surface.

When our vibration goes up and we finally feel amazing and on top of the world we tend to never want to come back down, so we naturally or even instinctually push out those other emotions, energies and frequencies. We feel they are bad or we label them under the NO WAY category. I know I do. When I feel great I feel like there is no way I’m coming back down. However, there is no such thing as exclusion in a world of energy when all is One and needs negative and positive to operate. So what you decide you don’t want, comes fighting back to its rightful place as much as you fight to push it way. It’s like fighting your reversed mirror image. You attract people who feel threatened by your expansion or new found joy. They fight it because they feel excluded from your life. So how do we escape polarity but enjoy our bliss?

Accept all energies. Allow it to flow. Imagine the thing you want the most to happen. Imagine how you would feel if it already happened. If there’s a smile on your face that’s a good sign. If you feel light in your heart and an opening there, this is what acceptance feels like. Allow yourself to feel that and watch how much easier it is to stay blissful.

Kisses,

~V

 

Are you loving from your heart or your head?

Are you loving from your heart or your head?

This is a strange phenomena I’ve come across lately. Being love vs. doing loving actions based on what we think the idea of love is. The latter is way too common. You could be a head lover if you’ve found yourself saying “I’ve been very loving. I do all the right things. I’m a good person. Why can’t I get what I want? I feel forgotten, overlooked, unappreciated.” We could even add “I do so much for people and what do I get in return?!”. Or, “I’ve put so much good out in the world, what’s going on?!” If you resonate with any of that, there’s a big chance you are a head lover. Some other signs of this are you not attracting people you like and you seem to attract the ones you don’t like quite easily. Or maybe you do like them, but they don’t stick around, or you find out their feelings aren’t mutual after they seemed to be interested at first.

So if you’re a head lover, read on dear friend. We welcome you. You are not alone.

I know I’m dropping a bomb here when I say this, but here goes…

You are not actually loving.

Well now that that’s out of the way, let me say, you are a loving person. You are just not loving – as in the verb/action form of it. You are being the adjective. You’ve moved all that wondrous, amazing yumminess up to your head, which does nothing for you there. It just makes you seem loving. Its how people might describe you, with the adjective loving. The truth here is that you are a tremendously emotional or sensitive-to-feelings type of person, which is why you thought its much safer to pack up and move into the headspace. Perhaps your heart got hurt and you didn’t have to the tools to heal it, so you go through loving actions (notice the descriptor of love here) but can’t seem to attract your real desires in your life in some area because the actual action of loving (verb usage here), which is not a mental state, but an actual embodied state, isn’t happening.

So go to your heart. What’s there? Do you feel anything? Is it heavy? Is it fine?

Now take your awareness from your beautiful and genius mind, which I’m sure is so with this group since we’ve spent so much time there, and put that awareness inside your heart. Breathe in and out slowly a few times. What’s there? Muck and yuck? Puppies and rainbows? I’m not here to judge. When I went to my heart it was full of grief, layers and layers worth.

The heart has a gigantic magnetic field. This is what actually manifests our life. As within so without. So this is why no matter how many times you tell yourself you are going to get that job, that extra money, or a loving mate to show up, it doesn’t happen. You can think positive thoughts day and night, even have moments of feeling that confidence, but in the end it is the state of your heart that creates your outside world. Only when your heart is open and clearer, then those positive thoughts and moments of strong feelings of confidence flow through and can help to manifest what you desire.

Essentially, it would be in your best interest if everything came from love, and if its not possible in that moment, it could be forgiveness. Anything else is considered a withholding of love. The only person we can actually withhold love from is ourselves. Did you ever withhold love from someone because you were upset? Perhaps your mind felt self-satisfied, but did you notice your feelings were unbalanced in some way, maybe even a little empty?

The truth is this. You are LOVE. Love is just another word for your infinite source energy, or your spirit, or your creator, or the universe. So either you are coming from YOU – your authentic self – love, or you are cutting off from yourself, source, and spirit.

Whoa right!? When you come from love – youyou easily magnetize your deepest desires and things that are perfect for you without even asking.

When you have trouble coming from love, forgiveness is a wise choice. It opens up the heart and lets things flow and clears the karma of lifetimes gone by. Its all too easy to go back to the head and think we are open-hearted because we are being nice and even caring. When we come from the heart there is so much less work because we are being it and there is less doing or saving of anyone else.

One way to check this is to stop and feel. Are there endless thoughts in your mind? Do you get bored easily and need outside stimulation more often than not? You’re probably in the head.

Are you aware of your feelings (even if they are ones you consider negative) and is your mind mostly quiet? Do you do and say things that feel in alignment with you. Then you are most likely in the heart.

There’s a reason you’ve been in the head. We know its difficult, and it hurts to revisit what’s trapped there in the heart, but letting go and forgiveness will give you all that you seek.

Love & Blessings,

V

The Red Tent Revival!

I have a secret to share…

It’s a secret that will turn you on, light you up, and rock your world in all kinds of ways…

It’s a secret that harkens back to more than 5,000 years ago when the feminine was worshiped, respected and celebrated…

It’s a secret that will have you reclaiming your feminine power, reviving your wisdom, and returning to your truth as a woman…

Ready for it?!

You’ll find it here in this video.

I attended this last year and it was absolutely amazing. I learned tons of new stuff that I didn’t even know was out there and it helped me to ground into my femininity more. This is why I’ve decided to take part in supporting this event this year. I hope you check it out. 🙂

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Kristin Sweeting Morelli, is the red hot woman who is pioneering this movement. She seriously likes to shake things up and break down barriers for women around the world…

And so, she has put together an EPIC (and totally free) 5-day online festival where we’ll revive EVERYTHING it means to be a woman.

It’s called the Red Tent Revival… and it’s happening soon.

I’ve gotten a sneak peek and it’s a WOW! I’ve never seen or heard of anything like it. It’s already changing my life and the lives of tens of thousands of other women in 167 countries and counting…

Inside the Red Tent, you’ll get to learn from an extraordinary group of contributors too… television stars, best-selling authors, world-famous dancers, MDs, and PhDs who will be sharing their wisdom and having us move our bodies. Mmm… so good!

Want to come?! (You can take part from the comfort of your living room!)

Join the Red Tent Revival here.

Kisses,
V

Moving Mountains with Every Muscle

Do you sometimes trip over things that you didn’t see was there?

Do you forget what you were going to do just as you go to do it?

Do you go over things in your mind – over and over on a loop?

Do you have trouble relaxing your mind and falling asleep at night?

Are there parts of your body that you haven’t felt in a long, long time?

Do you feel light and airy and daydream a lot?

Do things seem really great in your mind then suddenly just fizzle away?

If so, you might be living in your head, or worse, outer space – that space right in front of and just above your head.

Living in our head is a great way to plan things out, think up new ideas, visualize, and so on, but do you wish you had more presence and that people heard, saw and acknowledged you more? Do you wish to have more confidence? Its time to get more embodied!  There’s a time and a place for the mind, then there’s a time and a place for the body. Unfortunately most people spend 90% in the head and 10% embodied.  The head space will only get you so far, but we need to be embodied to have things physically manifest in our lives, to be taken seriously and noticed, and to create that dream life down here on Earth!

This blog is full of tips on embodiment since a lot of people who are more spiritually oriented tend to live in the head or above and have a hard time getting things to work the way they want to. So here’s your next tip:

To get embodied quickly – stand up – walk slowly around the room using every muscle in your body. Start from your feet, feel all those muscles, then your legs, move and flex all those muscles. Continue to walk around the room and work your way up to your facial muscles. You will be so focused on your body it instantly snaps you out of your head.

Now from this place you can take your action and see if that feels different to you. Make your phone calls, go to bed, go workout, go for a walk, even have a conversation. Notice what and how this feels different for you and if things are easier and less stressful over time as you spend more time in the body.

Kisses,
~V