Monthly Archives: January 2016

Twin Flames: Stage 1

The first stage in meeting your twin flame is the meeting.

This initial connection with your twin is usually a synchronous event or surrounded by some sort of unusual or interesting synchronicity! Both of you have a recognition of each other. Now, this may not be an “I’ve known you forever feeling” as usually happens with soulmates, but there’s definitely something that stands out about them.

The meeting can even feel surreal.

You know that the person you are with is different or maybe completely unlike anyone you have met before. They seem to get you without much effort and there’s an ease to being with them. It’s at this stage that both of your heart chakras begin to open and the awakening starts to happen. You feel comfortable around them or able to open up more and be more of yourself without much effort.

If you haven’t met your twin in person its still considered Stage 1 if your twin has come to you in dreams or if you are intuitive and can sense that type of soul trying to connect with you energetically. Everyone is unique and there are lots of ways to meet your twin, so while is the norm, it doesn’t fit every single case.

Many twins that are at stage 1 may not even be aware of something called “Twin Flame Reconnection” at this point.

Stage 2 — coming soon!

Blessings,

Vanessa

http://www.stairwaytohealing.com

10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Awakening

10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Awakening

The universe has a way of introducing frustration in the places that need the most healing. It’s to get us to stop and look at what is going on and make some changes in our lives. Many people get frustrated though and don’t know what to do, what changes to introduce or what the universe is actually trying to get them to see.

I almost called this post 10 Signs Your Divine Feminine is Imbalanced, or Un-awakened. However, the truth is that if these things are happening to you, somewhere in your soul your feminine is awake and just calling out for healing and changes so she can can come back into balance with your masculine energy. She’s there and you are aware of her, even if its unconscious, but these are signs she is asking to be unblocked if any of these things are causing you frustration. This post is for those people that feel truly feminine in their nature. Not all females are truly meant to be feminine and men – masculine, but if you are one of the majority that is feminine in nature then this may resonate for you.

  1. You have your life together. You have a good job, your own place, good friends, life is flowing to you, maybe abundantly, but one thing is missing. The soulmate or that passionate relationship you so truly desire.
  2. You’ve been burnt out from work before and fear getting burnt out again so it stops you from creating and moving forward with new projects and ideas.
  3. Your mind goes and goes and goes. It’s hard to make it stop and get restful deep sleep. You ground yourself but it doesn’t seem to help quiet the mind and get to that place where the thoughts cease. Quiet meditation could even feel like a chore.
  4. You constantly feel like you are “out-manning” men. It almost feels too easy. You may also find that they don’t “step-up” and do the manly things that should be obvious to them.
  5. You feel masculine on the inside. On the outside you could be very feminine looking, curvaceous or you do “girly” things, but inside you’ve never felt feminine.
  6. You tend to be the nurturer in your relationships with lovers, friends, family. When we’re nurturing, we are actually in our masculine energy. You may be the giver and doer in relationships. and you feel like you are doing a lot of the work to keep things flowing.
  7. This one addresses both extremes: Your finances are blocked and find that you are in a co-dependent relationship and need more from him whether it be attention or finaces, or you feel like you are the one in charge and doing everything financially or otherwise.
  8. You have a lot of shame or hatred of your body. It’s hard to look in the mirror and see the beauty standing before you. Your eyes go right to the places you want to change or feel you have imperfections.
  9. You isolate yourself or have a fear of being seen or heard or have some social anxiety.
  10. You have trouble opening your heart and seeing the love and beauty of life all around you. This can also manifest as an issue with receiving. You ask for what you want, you even ask for help, but you don’t always receive it or with the ease you’d like. The word surrender feels like defeat, not like surrendering into the divine flow and opening up to receiving and change.

These are all signs your feminine is waking up and wants to be seen, heard and expressed through you. Just the acknowledgement that this is indeed what is happening will start this process of healing, unblocking and further awakening for the feminine.

If you would like a private session to open up the divine feminine, please contact me at www.stairwaytohealing.com. I will also be doing groups and processes in the late spring to early summer to assist in the awakening of the divine feminine including Womb Blessings, Initiations, Carrier of the Sacred Flame, Healing Sexual Wounds, Heart Wounds and Intuition Wounds, and much more!

Blessings,

Vanessa

Twin Flames ~ Soul Pairs

We are coming into a new era with Twin Flames or Soul Pairs. When you think or feel into the words twin flames, there is such a charge to it and will be used less and less over the next few years. As we vibrate higher and higher in 5th dimensional consciousness, or closer to the vibration of unconditional love, the terminology twin flames will fall away and will be referred to as Soul Pairs. This holds a much softer energy and more accurately represents how it feels once you’ve been connected with your twin, after the struggles that many Lightworkers face when connecting with their  twins.

For those that are unfamiliar, a twin flame is part of your soul that was split from you as you decided to incarnate here on Earth. It is your other half, yet you are whole, just as one drop of the ocean is whole unto itself.

To be very clear, this is not a soulmate. A soulmate is someone that is a true match for you right now. This is someone you may have learned many lessons with, a relationship you’ve done a lot of growth from, and you can have many soulmates.  They may not always be lovers, but can be close friends, family, co-workers, etc. They may not stay in your life the entire time, but you tend to have a bond like no other. Many people encounter soulmates but you may not end up growing together, or at the same speed. You may feel a longing for something more, something much deeper within you. That is your longing for your twin flame. Not just anyone can fulfill that for you. You may try to find others to be with, go back to a soulmate, or find another soulmate relationship, but that emptiness tends to be still there. This is a sign you are longing for your twin. This is wonderful because you wouldn’t feel that longing unless your twin flame was out there waiting to be found or feeling something similar. However, since twin flame relationships are so much more profound and based on unconditional love, and a new way to be in relationship, its often a journey in itself to connect with your twin.

I know the term unconditional love tends to be thrown around a lot, but I want to be clear. It actually means you are vibrating at the frequency of love. A twin flame relationship will be unique and most likely will not fit into your standard relationship category. It tends not to be as easy as 1,2,3 we meet and we’re instantly together in a long-term relationship, as is the tendency with soulmate relationships in the beginning. There are actually stages and steps to go through, but I will write more about those in the future.

Since there’s a lot of confusion around this topic, as many Lightworkers know twins have been reuniting, especially these last few years, but feel like they are losing hope that it will ever happen, I’ve been compelled to share with you a few things.

95% of Lightworkers still have not fully connected with their twin nor have completed all of the stages. Many of you are still connected with soulmates, or find that you are not dating anyone as no one can really fill that void and longing that a twin flame brings up within you. While the rest of you are in the stage where one twin is “the runner”. If you are in the runner-stage and are certain this is your twin, know that you are about half-way through the process of connecting with your other half. In order for you both to fully come together and be together as twin flames there are certain things that have to be in place. Both of you need to be fully healed, fully self-loved and feel whole unto yourself, and vibrating mostly if not fully at 5th dimensional consciousness or the frequency of true unconditional love, and requires a fully healed masculine and feminine energy.

If you are one of the Lightworkers right now that have met their twins and are in the runner stage, its cause for celebration since you are vibrating mostly in the 5th dimensional frequency, as this is a process that has taken years to get to with much healing. I don’t need to tell you that, if you are a Lightworker you know how much work you’ve done to get to this place!

So what’s next?

I’m told that the area where many of us may need to look right now is at being fully self-loved and healed, as well as balancing the masculine and the feminine. This requires a different type of work and healing than most have been doing as it requires embodiment in a different way. Many of us have learned to heal through masculine energy or methods and from the mind and by changing beliefs or thoughts. The feminine way to heal is through receiving, surrender and feelings and is less action-oriented. So if you are having a desire to do so, working through these areas may help you advance to the next stage.  It’s sort of a 90 degree turn that we are asked to make at this time when I look at the shift. It’s hard to see and define since its a more feminine energy and why I’m sharing this at this time. We can only go so far with what we’ve been doing and many of us have completed our lessons and our ascension to a higher frequency through the more masculine means and methods we have learned. This is the next step and will lead you into the next stage, which allows us to let go and work through these parts that are still unhealed while giving the runner the room or space he/she needs. Following that stage is when all of this is healed and you have an outpouring of unconditional love as the ego gets dissolved. You no longer desire romantic love, you are love, followed by the last stage which is the actual reuniting of the pairs in relationship. Much love to you and your Soul Pairs!

Blessings,

Vanessa

Energy Update

The energy last night and today have been pretty intense. As I have been more embodied and in-tune with myself some of these shifts in energy float right by me almost as if I’ve been cocooned from the light show raging outside, that is until I decided to poke my head out and see what was going on in  the ethers. A storm was raging last night. What did I see? The old matrix reality is being disassembled, the grid lines are disappearing and the 3D polarized reality being dismantled and transmuted. What does this mean and what does this feel like for us?

Friendships are ending, even long-term ones, you may feel easily annoyed and irritated, negativity emerges right in the midst of you feeling high vibrational and elated, you may feel like some people are up to their old tricks, feeling dreamy and spacey or disembodied to a certain extent, and the one that comes along with usually every event in the ethers – sleepiness, lethargy, and emotional tiredness. Usually when there are huge shifts like this, you may become aware of psychic attacks, energy interference, blocks, or feeling like you’re in a bubble where no one can see you, which can protect you but then can block your receiving. What do we do?

The time we are in now calls for letting go. We tend to want to jump right into “cleansing negative energies” – mode, however, letting go, surrendering and receiving change are super critical right now.  The changes you have been asking for are coming. It’s when we truly let go that the forces can come and sweep  through and change our lives, creating the change we are asking for. Included in letting go is the innate belief that all is working out as you’ve asked and in your best interest. The universe is conspiring in your favor, even though it may not feel like it.

So this isn’t “do nothing”. This is allowing change, detaching from everything and leaning back in the body, and taking a step back mentally allowing everything to stir and move. Float along knowing ALL of this is in your best interest. Everything is aligning for you, for your new future. Trust. Let go.

Peace to you,

~Vanessa

Today’s Thought

A Healing Mantra:

I love all the loved and unloved parts of myself.

I accept all the accepted and unaccepted parts of myself.

I approve of all unapproved and rejected parts of myself.

Speak this mantra throughout your day and watch your energy shift. The more you feel it as you say it, the better.

This is a simple step to begin self-healing, deepen it, and refocus your energy and thoughts on yourself. These statements are especially helpful if you find that you are outwardly focused on others, or find that you look for love, approval and acceptance outside of yourself. The more you can find it within, the easier your life will flow.

Love to you always,

Vanessa