True Prosperity

What can be a contribution to you that you may not even be aware of?

 

What can be a contribution to you that you may not even be aware of?

Your clothes.

Your food.

Your money.

Animals.

The Earth.

Your home.

Let’s say you have a plate of food in front of you.

Take a moment to just breathe it in. Take a breath and really feel it by tuning into your body.

Ask, “Will you contribute to me?”.

In this moment just relax and the let the molecules change to match whatever it is you need that you may not even be aware of. Enjoy!

Yes molecules can change pretty quickly when you know it can change pretty quickly. hehe ūüôā20160423_002405

Kisses,

Vanessa

 

When you’ve tried everything and your goal still hasn’t manifested!

When the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for you

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I’ll admit, there were times I thought the Law Of Attraction wasn’t even real. I just couldn’t seem to get it to work. I, of course, watched other people get it to work, almost effortlessly I’ll add. Then there was me, up all night reading books about the LOA, or other books about the secret to the LOA, or books on receiving, or ones on frequency or vibration. I just couldn’t figure out the trick. What were other people doing that I wasn’t doing? I tried everything. I just knew there had to be somewhere I was blocked with receiving since there were a few things I could make happen, but why wasn’t this consistent if this is a law?

If you are like me where you just about gave up on the LOA, you’ll be happy to read this. I’m going to tell you exactly why it doesn’t work for some people and it works for others. There are several reasons that blew my mind when I found out. I’ll tell you one of them today, but stay tuned because I’m divulging everything…

Well let’s start with a short definition of the Law of Attraction. It says that what you focus on is what shows up in your life. Basically your dominant thoughts will manifest. This is why people have pictures of sports cars and vacations on their vision boards. We focus on it, we remind ourselves to feel what it’ll be like to have it, we think about it, we let go and there it is one day.

With this definition out there now, we can logically say that the Law of Attraction is working whether you think about it, or even know about it. It’s there producing your dominant thoughts as things, people, events and situations into your physical reality. You can see why knowing this exists is in your best interest because then you can focus on what you want to show up. Ok so far so good?

“I’m doing that and its not showing up. The opposite of what I want is showing up, or nothing is showing up at all. Help! I’m stuck!” This is what people ask me during sessions or through my written one question readings. I’m wording that a bit nicer. I know they’re frustrated so sometimes they’re a bit more murderous in their tone. (That doesn’t bother me. Like attracts like ūüėČ Law of Attraction pun totally intended.)

So one of ¬†the super secret reasons you are not getting what you want….You want it so much! If you feel super excited about it, or like you’ve waited so long for it and its FINALLY going to manifest, or it feels too good to be true, or it feels like “OMG my life would just be so fulfilled and perfect if I just had this…” and it feels so great to you and you’re in your head thinking about it, that’s where you are actually pushing that thing away because those are all discordant energies. Its not going to show up.

I’ve seen this with something as small as going to restaurant and everything being above and beyond what you expected. You tell a ton of people then you bring them and they’re like “meh” and the service or something else is off that day.

I’ve also seen with this something as big as “I met my twin flame! We’re going to be together!!”, but then that twin flame pushes¬†them away and it becomes this tense and emotional roller coaster of “How do I get them to like me?”.

Now I’m not saying if you are super excited the law of attraction won’t work. I AM saying though, that if the law of attraction isn’t working then it might be this reason.

So what do we do? We get grounded. We feel the earth beneath our feet. We reconnect with our bodies. We notice we’re having all these intense emotions and the thing we want isn’t showing up. Then we go mind-over-matter. You want to get yourself to a place where you having that thing seems normal, like no big deal. It’s not significant.

Think about the things that you have. You may be grateful for it, but its not over the top. You know its there, its no big deal. The key here is to not make anything or anyone more important or more special or more significant than you. And there it. Secret #1 laid out for you.

Stay tuned for the rest!!

Kisses,

Vanessa

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Recreating Your Relationships

Do you find yourself often in discord with others? Perhaps they make you feel helpless, frustrated, hurt or victimized at times. Often I suggest feeling into what is going on before reacting to someone. Our reality is a sign of what is going on internally within ourselves and our own subconscious mind.

If you find yourself fighting with mostly men that could mean a disturbance with your masculine self that is not in balance with the feminine, if you are someone that relates to being more feminine. Do you feel like you are constantly being attacked? There is something within that needs attention and care and proper healing that maybe you’ve been protecting. These are just a couple of examples, but you don’t need to figure this out. It can be helpful to think about what was out of balance afterwards, but its definitely not necessary.

The best thing to do is to feel what is going on. Drop into the body, get out of the mind and feel what’s there. Take a deep breath and go right to the part that feels like its on fire, screaming for attention or seems to be at war with the rest.

Once you have it, take a breath and just send it love and nurturing. Give it your unconditional love and caring. Then watch it transform. Allow the resistance to melt away and let yourself come back into balance, healed and whole.

Our physical reality is a reflection of how we truly think, what we feel and our belief systems, which equals our true vibration. You may notice all of your relationships changing with ease and grace and your shifting vibration will attract more loving people and support and much more ease in your life.

Blessings to you,

Vanessa

False Power

That moment you feel powerless, angry, upset. It’s in that moment we decide to step into our power through reaction. I ask you though, do not step into your power. Do not “DO” anything. Instead, lean back into your power. It’s behind you – not in front of you. You don’t have to forcefully step into it. You just lean back and its been there all along, just waiting. When we step forward and try to do something, its coming from reaction. True power doesn’t derive itself from anger, hate, fury or retaliation. Blame again is a lack of power and a projection whether onto yourself or another due to a feeling of powerlessness. ¬†If you lean back you will first feel the powerlessness, which can feel like hurt and sadness. This is the true feeling. Next you will flow right into that true power and notice a calm and stability rise up within you.

When you embody that true power, the thing that happened that makes you want to react – well most likely it will cease to exist. This is good prevention and a way to completely transmute the situation you’re in. Yes, you may want to react and retaliate or get angry because that is a better feeling than powerlessness or feeling that hurt. However, that cannot be sustained. In the end the rush will fade. You may then notice the universe brings you another situation, and another and another until you know that the lesson is to embody your true power. When you are ready to break the cycle you will relax into the true feelings, then flow into the true power. You will feel strong, yet neutral about the situation. You may feel like it doesn’t even bother you and you may not even think about it. If it involves another person, you may notice their response to you is different as well. When we have triggers, well – we’ll always find someone to push them. If you use it as an opportunity to be free, you will change your entire existence and relationships with people.

Love to you,
Vanessa

The True Self

There’s a place within you

It cannot be harmed, fooled, or broken

Its the part of you that rises up

as the God/Goddess

Find that place

And you’ve found Heaven.

~Vanessa

The Calling Within

I feel¬†there’s been a distortion¬†in¬†the information about the masculine and the feminine. ¬†Many years ago we were told to balance the masculine and the feminine energies within and that it was time to bring these things back into balance so that both were equally important. I always felt very resistant about doing that, and to be honest I skipped that part in all the classes and meditations I sat in,¬†instructing me how to balance these with each other. ¬†I knew I wanted to bring my lost femininity out since as an engineer I lived in my masculine primarily, but I didn’t know how, and this just didn’t feel right to me. What I’ve come to know now is that its about being¬†who you truly are that will bring the entire world into balance.

If everyone that was truly masculine could feel comfortable¬†to be that masculine and everyone that was truly feminine could feel comfortable¬†to be that feminine and let it shine, the world would come into balance with these energies, and the feminine that has been long buried would rise up and these energies would be in harmony. This is what we are being called to do at this time. I’ve noticed a trend with clients that have worked on equalizing their masculine and feminine within. It appears like they have become neutralized and have a tough time attracting in a partner that is to their liking and the more feminine clients feel like that part of them is lost. They miss that spice and sensuality and fire of the feminine. I say let’s toss that concept of equalizing within ourselves out the window.

Do you feel like your true nature is more masculine or feminine? Work on bringing that out. Of course we are both of these and have both already working within, but you will notice that as you allow your feminine to rise again, your masculine side will be more focused as how to operate and help you, and even the masculine ones in your life will respond to you differently, perhaps in a way that you have longed for.  Have you ever been around a man that was so masculine you instantly felt more feminine and soft?

As you embrace your true nature, you will help to allow others to embrace theirs.

If you are more masculine deep down, allow that to shine forth and step into it. This is what we are being called to do. As you step into that, you will find that you feel calm and comfortable with your femininity and that people instantly and naturally look to you for leadership and direction. I believe this is the true and natural balance our souls have been longing for.

Of course this might be easier said than done, so I have some tips coming up for you soon on how to actually do this!

Lots of Love & Blessings,

~Vanessa

www.stairwaytohealing.com

A leap of faith…

How do you feel when someone tells you to just have faith? Or when you are guided to “take a leap of faith”? Is it scary? I used to think of faith as blind faith. It was as if I was being asked to just believe, even though I couldn’t see it, and to leap without regard for what may happen. So most of the time I would leap, then I’d step into this energy of hopefulness combined with trying to stay calm and open as I wait for it to happen. Well now I know that was completely working against me! This often left me in a state of perpetual waiting for something to happen.

Faith is actually KNOWING. It’s a true and strong belief in yourself, the outcome, or the universe/God/Spirit. It’s that feeling when you know you can definitely do this no matter what! You feel aligned and motivated and have this strong knowing that nothing is going to stop you. It can also be that feeling of just being able to let go completely and know things will work out because something bigger has it all in check. You’ll feel great about just letting go and not allowing any worry to creep up. If a feeling did creep up you wouldn’t ignore it, you would feel into it and see if there was something that needed to happen on your end. This is true faith.

Taking a leap of faith comes up in so many readings for people and it can be confusing as to how to do what you are being asked to do. It’s a strong belief in yourself and that things have a way of working out, especially when you release any fears and negative thoughts about things.

Love to you,

~V

What is my Divine Purpose?

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is here on the planet? Do you feel like you are lacking direction and not sure what you are really here to do? Do you feel an emptiness or like something is missing from your life?

The answer is simple. However, simple can easily be overlooked.

When we think of purpose we tend to think of it in terms of what we are here to do. We like to say things like “I am a doctor, lawyer, student, chef, teacher, healer”, etc. Maybe you are in a career you don’t love and you don’t feel fulfilled by it. We then start to search for our purpose, what we are really here to do.

One of the secrets of this reality is that its not about what we do. It’s about what we ARE.

We can search all we want for our purpose. We can change careers and do something we love. I’ve seen a lot of people over the years leave jobs and become healers. It feels amazing to assist others on their journeys and help people heal and transform. It’s truly a joyful thing to be involved in. You get very busy healing people and that emptiness feels gone. The days are busy and thrilling and you have finally found your purpose. Or have you?

Eventually that empty feeling comes creeping back in.

What is it? Maybe its my relationship? Or we think, maybe I’m meant to do something else. The emptiness gets bigger and bigger screaming for us to pay attention. This can be a never-ending search our entire lives for fulfillment.

It’s never about what you do. It’s always about what you are.

Your search for purpose is your internal longing to find yourself. That’s all.

Once you have found yourself you can do anything and its fulfilling. You can sweep the floor or head a live conference. You may feel more passionate about one, but you never feel empty. You feel whole and fulfilled. You never question your purpose again.

How do you find yourself? Finding yourself is not as difficult as it sounds. You are there, inside that body, or in that general vicinity if you are more ungrounded. You’ve just disassociated and ended up in the mind or mental body . This is where you need to take action. You drop out of the mind and get into the body more deeply, you ground and connect with the true core of who you are. From the core of who you are, you will feel like things slow down. You may feel driven to take a certain direction. Your job is to follow that gut feeling. It may be short lived at first as you test out new things and find yourself. The thrill of life will start to come back. You will feel desire in your bones again. Life begins to get fun in a totally different way.

Not knowing your purpose is a sign of dissociation with your authentic self. A calling and longing for you to come home to yourself.

Once you reconnect with your core essence there will never be a lack or questioning of purpose. You have found you. Your purpose has always been to find you and live from that space doing anything you wish.

Blessings,

Vanessa